April 14, 2011

It Does Not Mean They Like You

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In church leadership, pastors, ministers, musicians, and others that come before the church are often respected, appreciated, and supported. Their presence, anointing from God, and character/charisma can be an awe-inspiring representation of the things many hope to see in themselves and especially others (i.e. spouse). However, what begins as appreciation and thankfulness from afar can become much more within – and this is from the leader.

If the leader is not careful, they can misinterpret the person’s true intent and believe they have an ‘agenda’ to establish an intimate relationship. Some leaders would also use intimacy as a way of expressing their appreciation. They may assume there is an attraction and may even act on that assumption, not realizing that the person did not like them in that manner.

This is for both single and married leaders.

When leaders accept such notions:

It gives evidence of their own weaknesses of temptation (and giving place to the devil and their own lusts) – Ephesians 4:27; James 4:1-4.
It shows their willingness to accept the plight of their own sexual desires without considering the damage that will come as a result (to everyone involved).

Therefore, it is vitally important for the leader to:

1. Repent and recover their own thoughts of sinfulness (Titus 2:11-14; James 4:7-10; 1 John 1:9).

2. Maintain healthy relationships before God and others.

3. Allow healthy boundaries to exist and be maintained. Just because someone appreciates your God-given gifts, anointing, etc., it doesn’t mean they like you (in an intimate manner).

2 Timothy 2:22 (KJV) – Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart.

Maintain your integrity before the Lord and others. Keep your relationships in right standing (God’s way) and don’t give the slightest hint of impropriety.

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